- Accomplishes goals
- Leads others to accomplish goals
- Builds effective communication
- Builds trust with others
- Gives personal confidence
- Builds on making right habits
- Creates character of decisiveness.
Leaders in positions in the public spotlight are often criticized for wrongs made in the public setting. Often these "wrongs" can be traced back to making wrong decisions in the "little" moments in life. Often these decisions are a fruit of the wrong values as well. For example, if someone values punctuality, he or she will often make the decision to be on time, if not early. However, the individual who is late for an important job appointment probably has made similiar decisions before and therefore, have a habit of being late (and likewise, not putting value on punctuality).
When I was a junior in high school running at the State Track Meet, my relay members and myself came jogging out of the warm up arena onto the track. As we jogged onto midfield, still in our warm up sweats, we could hear a third and final specific call for us as a team to report to the starting line! Not only had the first, second and third calls been made for our race, all runners were lined up on the starting line and EVERYONE was waiting on us! Why were we late? A lack of leadership - my leadership as the senior anchor. While I want to blame our coach for making us participate in a last minute run to Wal-Mart to get rain gear, honesty will tell you the four of us didn't pay attention to the clock while warming up in the warm-up arena. If the stress of panicking and undressing in front of EVERYONE wasn't enough, we had the state track officials barking down our necks!
While this is a humorous example of a poor decision, many "poor" decisions can be avoided in our days if we follow three simple ingredients to wise decision making:
- Base your decisions on right facts
- Rely on wise counsel
- Base decisions based on clearly defined goals.
Give an example of a common problem teen leaders face where they feel their heads are "splitting" and then use the three ingredients to re-shape the "poor" decision into a good decision.
"Those who avoid decision making thereby decide to let circumstances and others make the decisions for them." - Dr. Bill Gothard
school is something that they deal with they know sometimes it opens doors. some dont think they will ever need to know the things tought and end up doing something they dont like but cant change b/c of a decision they made in school
ReplyDeleteI think especially for me and maybe some other high schoolers time management is a big issue. An example of this is hitting the snooze button about two too many times when that extra 15 minutes of sleep does nothing but start your day off late. This probably didn't start just from hitting the alarm but not going to bed early enough. For me I know it is because I try to socialize first and then put the harder work off till later and later. Then it causes huge stress and then lack of sleep... hitting snooze...having to do homework during study hall lunch... and so on.
ReplyDeleteIf I were to put my phone away every evening before I started my homework I would be able to complete it in a much more timely fashion and still have time to socalize. Therefore making each thing a priority and being able to learn more efficiently.
I'm pretty sure, that everyone has such situations as Lana does.
ReplyDeleteI believe, you have CLEARLY to define your main goals and values, and to think which are more important and which ones are less inportant. Then just follow them. It's important to take an action, not just think about them.
I can see this problem occuring when you have two friends in a fight and they are trying to put you in the middle of it. They both come to you for advice on what to do and but you don't want to take sides with one person because that wouldn't solve the issue it would just make the situation worse and now the other person would be mad at you. You need to find some sort of people to ask that wont take sides and will see the situation from both ends. Parents are a good form of this. Also you need to base you support on what you think is right. If they come to you and ask for your opinion you can't sugar coat what you think. You cannot take the side of the person you are talking to you are talking to right now. You know what is right and what is wrong so base you decision off of that and not worry about what the other person is going to think. But you need to remember that you need to hear both sides of the story before you can go and judge what is going on because there are always two sides to the story. Base you choices of the right facts not bias facts.
ReplyDeleteI think another situation of head splitting would be one dealing with parents and friends. Many parents of teens raise their children to be responsible, obedient to the parents, and have the morals and values of a person of good character. Most teens follow their parents expectations to the best of their ability, but sometimes issues of friends come into play. Friends can sway the teen's priorities. An example of this is when your parents tell you to be home by eleven on a weekend night. That night you at a friend's house watching an awsome Nicholas Cage movie, that will end half and hour past eleven. You want to leave at before eleven but your friend wants you to stay. You have been late a couple and grounded two weeks ago. The right thing to do is to listen to your parents, they give you guidance for the future. You can see the end of the movie another night, tell your friend that you respect and honor what your parents ask of you. You are home on time and your parents have more trust in you. You did the right thing, based on your good morals and straight priorities.
ReplyDeleteI totally agree with the whole time management thing. It can hard to balance time with friends and doing work. Along with that, sometimes teens struggle with even doing their homework. Sure, there are plenty of times when it can be avoided by better management of time, but sometimes you're just too busy. It can be easy to not do if it's just a little assignment that won't really matter, but sometimes it just takes staying up a little later and getting it done because that's the "right" thing to do.
ReplyDeleteI can relate 100% to Lana's time management issue! It is very difficult to put your phone down and not respond to any text messages while doing your homework. It makes it difficult espically after getting home around 6pm from practice, taking a shower, eating dinner with your family, and then doing homework to try and solely focus on just your homework. We just need to realize what our main goals are and the importance of doing the "right" thing, even though at the time you can think of many other things to do. :)
ReplyDeleteAmen to Lana's comment! My homework doesn't even usually get looked at until 6 or 7 at night, and I'm not in any sports right now. Procastination usually gets the best of me, i need better time management. If i could just put my phone away for a portion of the day when doing homework, it'd get done so much faster, and my grades would probably look a little better. We have to get our priorities straight and our goals set so that we can do the right thing and for the right reason.
ReplyDeleteI have the same issue with time management when it comes to school work, but if it's like my job or any activity that I'm in I'm at lest 15 minutes early leaving my house. The issues that we as high-schollers have will follow us for a long time. I was rasied in a house were most of our clocks were 10 minutes fast just so that we wouldn't be late getting out fo the house. I still have to be at least 10-15 minutes early to everything that I'm in and to places that I have to be.
ReplyDeleteMy hardest part would be after getting home from track practice and just wanting to relax for awhile. But then time just slips away from me and I feel like I'm rushing to try and get everything I need to get done, done.
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